Last year our family moved to a house that was less than a mile
away from our children’s schools. We had
previously lived only a little farther up the road. We did this in part because we wanted them to
walk to school as often as possible. We wanted them to have the chance to
daydream as they meandered down the wooded paths, over the brook and across the
fields. We wanted them to see the world
up close; to develop a sense of place. We
wanted them to engage in an activity that benefited their spirits—and their
bodies.
It is important for children to engage in activities that
benefit their bodies. We are regularly
reminded that our children are embroiled in an epidemic of obesity. Because of
this, they face an increased risk of weight-related ailments, such as heart
disease and diabetes. As it stands, they
also have shorter life expectancies than we do.
The best way to ensure our children enjoy long, healthy
lives is to enjoy long, healthy lives ourselves. Although we can tell them what
they need to do (eat well, exercise, etc), our message will be much better
received if we are modeling the behavior we want them to have. In her book, Our Children Are Watching
(Barrytown, 1995), Susan Collins points out that words are only 7% of communication: “What we do with our voice is 38%. What we do with our bodies is 55%. Thus 93% of our communication is not what we
say, but how we say it.” Clearly,
actions speak louder than words.
Knowing that actions speak louder than words, we need to
show our children what we want them to do--and do it with them. Gandhi once remarked, “We must be the change
we wish to see in the world.” In the
case of our children, our world begins in our homes. So we must literally “walk the walk.”
Walking the walk is not complicated. Here are some tips:
- open your door and take a deep breath,
- settle your child in a stroller, or offer him your hand,
- place one foot in front of the other, until you’re moving down the street.
While walking, look at the trees…wave to the neighbors…chat
about your child’s favorite book. Then return
home, and let him process his full-body adventure.
Why do kids need full-body adventures? This is how they learn. Some kids incorporate information more easily
by hearing; others seeing; others by feeling or doing. Walking gives children a chance to do all of
these things: listen to a blue jay, look at newly opened lilacs, hug a tree and
hold a hand. Simply by strolling around
the block.
By walking around the block with your child, you also are helping
him understand his world. In Anam
Cara (Harper, 1997), John O’Donohue writes “Landscape has a secret and
silent memory, a narrative of presence where nothing is ever lost or
forgotten.” While winding his way
through wooded paths, across brooks and over fields, your child is connecting
to the secret and silent memories of the earth.
As your child gets older, you can expand his secret and
silent memories to involve landscapes farther afield. Navigate around town using the Left-Right-Forward-Back game. Stretch yourselves
even further by:
Older children often relish walking-related vacations. Last summer we hiked Katahdin with our
freshman son; we took our first and sixth grade daughters to amble about Monhegan.
Some of our most successful family
expeditions were prompted by our dog-eared copy of Best Hikes with Children in Vermont, New Hampshire and Maine (Mountaineers, 2000).
This spring, make plans for your own expedition, whether it
is ambling around an island or walking around the block. Be the change you wish to see in your
children. Benefit their bodies and their
spirits: help them walk the walk.